Do you ever feel ashamed of your own hypocrisy?
This week we farewelled The Big Boss, who is following his own ambitions to greener pastures. After his final term with us there are few who will really miss him, and more than a few who may have wanted to threw stones instead of word bouquets today, but we all maintained our pretence and pretended that we were utterly devastated that he was no longer our GOD.
Yep, I was a big fat hypocrite. My one moment of glory was writing my farewell on his card. I wrote “goodbye” and no more. We heard all week of his humility, his simplicity and his fairness, when in truth he created a “boys club”, treated colleagues with great harshness and a cold heart, and was arrogant and ambitious to the point that he would no doubt have sacrificed all for his own ends. This week we witnessed blatant discrimination against someone due to their age. And yet he had “strong religious principles”, oh yeah.
Yes, he was a hypocrite, but then so am I for staying quiet, and while I might tell myself that my lack of action was a necessary survival tactic, and hey he is gone now anyway, I still feel empty inside. Hollow. Shallow.
The wine flowed at lunch and many of us toasted his leaving. I tried to dull the pain of hypocrisy with my glass.
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But what would have you gained by being otherwise? Would it have done any real good to be honest? And did you actually say good things or did you just keep silent? I don’t view silence as hypocrisy.
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You aren’t a hypocrite, you were trying to be civil. A farewell party isn’t the time to vent and let the farewell-ee (a better term for a person who is departing escapes me) know how you really felt about him. If you run into him on the street, feel free to let fly the oaths and insults: but at a social event where other guests are present, some of whom might be family members of the guilty party, it looks rude and tasteless. (Unless everyone is drunk: then you might hope that no one will be able to remember what happened that evening, or at least able to identify you in a police lineup.)
You are a classy lady; I wouldn’t expect you to break from the norm and act otherwise.
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Um…cheers? 😉 At least you got some wine! (but yes, I hear you)
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I agree with the others. You probably wouldn’t have felt any better if you had lit into him. This way, you know he’s an asshole, and no doubt everyone else does too, but you didn’t stoop to his level. That’s class, not hypocrisy!
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Okay, I agree, as well. He’s gone. Good riddance, adios. Lucy
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As the wine trickled down your throat, I would not have thought of being hypocritical, you said goodbye, nothing else was required and judging how this ‘person’ acted and treated others, I personally would not have even signed the card. Sup another glass of wine FD, knowing all is well.
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As above. You’re parting gift was not loosening your tongue. He’s gone. Yay.
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I agree with the others. You exhibited class, not hypocrisy. I would have expected no less FD. Your “Goodbye” comment said it all. Well done.
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grace covers a multitude of sins.
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one of my coworkers wanted to organize a goodbye lunch for me. i said no. then he wanted to do something after work. again, i said no. he said, “but it’s going for drinks” to which I replied, “I go for drinks all the time.. I just don’t invite you guys”
I shall leave without even stopping by my dept in order to avoid having to put on a nice face when I really want to tell them all to fuck off.
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I understand – no need to be a hypocrite, that is for sure. Take the moral high ground!
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oh, they make me be a hypocrite on nearly a daily basis. i figure leaving is a good time to be blunt.
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